On Saturday I had the privilege of going to a traditional
Tanzanian wedding! Pascal, the
assistant director at Save Africa, got married and wanted us to be there to
share in his happiness as well as snap a million pictures of everything that
happened throughout the celebrations. Matt and I went to the wedding along with
two other volunteers who worked at Save Africa before we arrived.
As part of the Tanzanian tradition, the bride’s family has what is called a “send off” a few days or a few weeks before the wedding. This is basically a party they throw to say farewell to their daughter and give their final approval to the groom. While we did not attend the send off, we were told it is usually a very emotional party as the bride is officially being given away to the groom’s family.
Pascal walking towards his bride :) |
After the send off takes place, they have a typical church
ceremony followed by a reception (both of which we were able to attend). The church ceremony was in Swahili so
it was a little difficult to follow exactly what was being said but it seemed
to be more or less like a traditional wedding in America. One difference that
was interesting was the processions down the aisle. First the groom walks in with his father and ring bearer and
they are followed by a group of family members who are dancing and singing like
crazy. Once he gets to the alter,
he waits with his back turned until the bride has started to walk in with her
mother, maid of honor, and flower girl (also followed in by dancing and singing
family members). After the bride has entered the church, the groom turns around
and starts to slowly walk towards her with his father and ring bearer. When he has reached her, the families
join, he lifts her veil, and the families walk together down the aisle…still
dancing and singing. There was a
whole lot of fun African music and dancing during the ceremony while they said
their vows and signed the marriage certificate.
Dancing family members |
After the ceremony, the bride, groom and close family
members went to take pictures at a beautiful game reserve down the road with
tons of animals. Since I was hired as Pascal’s photography, us white folk were
also allowed to go take pictures with them. I felt a little out of place since we were obviously not
close family but Pascal specifically requested our presence! His wife is beautiful and I loved
following them around and documenting the day.
Once pictures were taken, we drove to the reception where
the rest of the guests were waiting.
The reception was coincidentally being held in a hall at the school I am
sending Edwin and Augustino to so it was cool to see the transformation from
school to wedding venue. The color
theme of the reception was red, white, and blue. When we first arrived I felt
as if I had walked straight into a huge 4th of July party in the
late 80s/early 90s. The
decorations were a little over the top and very, very shiny. It’s also kind of funny because the
wedding was in a town called Usa River…USA, USA!
Anyyway, the wedding party waited outside while the guests
were getting settled in their seats.
It was set up like a school play- folding chairs in rows facing a stage
where the bride and groom stood all night. The mother of the bride and father of the groom were the
first to dance down the aisle, again followed by an entourage of crazy family
members and close friends. Once
they reached the front, the bride and groom danced down the aisle to really fun
music. I must say, their entrances
really out did any wedding reception entrances I have seen at home! The music alone just sends so much
energy through the room and before you know it, everyone is out of their seats
dancing, singing, and clapping.
A few speeches were given and then they cut the cake. The bride and groom feed each other
like any American wedding but then they also have their family members line up
so they can feed them cake as well.
Because I was sitting in the front row to take pictures, I guess I was
confused for a family member and forced to get up in front of everyone and be
fed cake off a toothpick. It was
pretty embarrassing since I cannot katika, or shake my hips, nearly as well as
the voluptuous African women! There was not enough cake for everyone so I felt
preeeetty lucky to have received one of the few pieces. After the cake, they set up a receiving
line for gifts. Again, family
members and friends lined up in the back of the hall to deliver their
gifts. The loud music continued
and with every gift that was given a huge procession of guests danced up and
down the aisle passing the gifts over their heads and eventually into the hands
of the bride and groom. The bride
and groom did share a first dance and there were a few other dance routines
that their friends put on for everyone.
There wasn’t really much unorganized dance floor dancing like we have in
America, though. All of the
dancing was done through the aisles when giving gifts and receiving cake.
The last thing we did was eat dinner…without any
silverware. We were shoveling
rice, pasta, and vegetables into our mouths with our hands! So graceful. Probably the biggest difference between
a Tanzanian wedding and an American wedding was the lack of alcohol- there
wasn’t any served all night! The
lack of alcohol didn’t really make any difference to me at all (except that I
wasn’t able to ice myself…), but I did see it as a pretty strong symbol of how
unimportant food and alcohol are in their lives. They can’t afford to indulge in fancy food and drinks so
they focus on the more important things like family, friends, and dancing! Food and drinks are usually two of the
most important things at any American wedding, followed by how good the DJ was.
I think we sometimes lose site of what is truly important when it comes to
weddings in America, we may have our priorities a little mixed up! Pascal’s wedding was a beautiful
reminder of what is really important when you celebrate the love between two
people.